How I Work


Therapy is a unique experience. It is a joint venture that accepts reality and honors possibility. It accepts people as they are and supports change. It is an exploration of habits. It is a search for solutions.

Most of us have only seen examples of “therapy” in books and movies. A character meets with a therapist, has a moment of insight and this sudden clarity alters life almost magically.

In real life change tends to be a gradual process not a single “ah ha” moment. We know that something is not quite right. We try to do things differently. (I will stop eating sugar. I will set limits with my two year old.) We try to get other people to do things differently. (If she listened to me I wouldn’t nag. If they’d get off my back I’d honor curfew.) But somehow things don’t change.

What does lead to change? A very particular sort of conversation. Therapist and client talk about daily life to get a better understanding of the patterns of behavior that interfere with enjoying family time, good communication, and a sense of self esteem and purpose.